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Valentine’s Day screening of MY WEEK WITH MARILYN at St.George OpenAir Cinema

I heart her!

 

Sydneysiders will be treated to an added touch of glamour this Valentine’s Day with the screening of MY WEEK WITH MARILYN at St.George OpenAir Cinema. St.George OpenAir Cinema is the ultimate summer experience. Before the film, wine and dine in the restaurant and bar area whilst taking in the views of the most famous harbour in the world. Then, as the giant 350 square metre screen rises above the water, relax back in grandstand seating and enjoy an extraordinary, only-in-Sydney experience.

Already the subject of extravagant Oscar®buzz thanks to Michelle Williams astounding portrayal of Marilyn Monroe, the film recalls with fabulous charm and wit, the difficulties experienced on and off set when Marilyn Monroe travelled to England to make The Prince and the Showgirl with Sir Laurence Olivier (Kenneth Branagh).

The 2012 OpenAir program has included blockbusters such as MONEYBALL, which stars Brad Pitt and Jonah Hill, and the hilarious comedy THE INBETWEENERS MOVIE, which follows on from the edgy UK TV series about the over-imagined sexual ambitions of a group of young males.

The 2012 St.George OpenAir Cinema program features fourteen premiere or preview screenings, all the major summer releases, and a selection of the year’s best indie films. Although pre-ticket sales have sold out, there is a number available via the box office.

Last year more than 30,000 tickets and over a dozen screenings were sold out in the first half hour alone, so be sure not to miss out on the ultimate summer experience.

Event: St.George   OpenAir Cinema 2012
Where: Mrs Macquaries   Point, Sydney – adjacent to Royal Botanic Gardens
When:  January 11 to February 18 2012
  Gates, bar and   restaurant open from 6.15pm
  Films commence   shortly after nightfall (approx. 8.30-8.45pm)
Tickets: Tickets on sale   from Thursday 15 December via the event website
www.stgeorge.com.au/openair

Advance   Bookings*: General $30 / concession $28 + booking fee
Door Sales*: General $35 / concession $32
*additional costs may apply for special presentations.

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If you could, and you knew it would work…

If you could, and you knew it would work… would you push a
button to erase all of your dating history dilemmas: the long-term exes, the drunken
one night stands, and the friend of a friend that just didn’t hit the mark or
even the blind date? If you could and you know that it would work, would you
take it all away?

With the advent of Facebook, Twitter, Google and even
Linked-In to a certain extent it is becoming increasingly hard to remove the
who’s who of dating crap from the good ol’ memory bank in your noggin.

I had an experience lately with a guy that fell into ‘said’
category and was a friend of a friend that well, was a disappointment. After
the fleeting ‘romance’ ahem! He went AWOL, which is fine as the whole time we
saw each other he didn’t take me out on one date and was a big fan of telling
everyone that would listen that he was a ‘nice guy’ when the truth was quite
the opposite. He’s one of these people who constantly update their Facebook
status with messages that no one wants to read about the current woman in his
life… I managed to escape that being done to me, thank goodness!

I was on Linked-in about three months after we went our separate
ways and our mutual friend had told me that he had left the company he was
working for and has had two jobs since, I was intrigued, so went onto his
Linked-In profile, curiosity got the better of me as I knew he’d been looking
for something else when we were ‘seeing’ each other. After a look at his, and a
few other people’s profiles I logged off and returned to my work after lunch. Only
little did I know that a new feature on the site that highlights who has viewed
your page recently… Great!  Imagine if
Facebook had that? CRINGE!

Within about two minutes I had a text message from him
saying “stop looking at my profile!” I started to compose a text explain why, and
then I suddenly thought…why?!

I just replied saying: ‘Don’t lie, you know you’re
flattered!” to which he responded: “I am yeah!”, whatever!

In the social media years of Gen X and Y it is increasingly
difficult to put your past in your past – Google doesn’t help either! The
Facebook relationship status has a lot to answer for, who’s idea was it to put
a broken heart icon there? Seriously?!

I guess on the other side though, everything we experience
in our lifetime makes us who we are as a person. We live from it, we learn from
it (most of the time) and we put our experience to use for future decisions to
hopefully avoid making the same mistakes again.

One of my very good friends recently said a very wise
comment to me:

“Forget what hurt you in the past, but never forget what it
taught you”. I guess sometimes it really is hard to forget; maybe this is because
we’re not meant to…

I also received some very wise words from my ex’s mum, of
all people, it was when I was going through the breakup and it really did
resonate with me:

“Everyone that comes into your life is there for a reason, a
season or a lifetime!” If it doesn’t work out for whatever reason, you guarantee
that it taught you something about yourself (reason), to help you through a particularly
hard time (season), to be your best friend, life partner or guardian (lifetime).
Suffice to say, why should we turn our backs on them and delete them from our
memory? Should we live and learn, what doesn’t kill us makes us stronger?

Similar to romantic partners, friendships shouldn’t be hard,
they should be easy and make you happy! You should have 100% trust and know you
can rely on them at all times never to let you down.

Just like relationships, if you’re arguing all the time, don’t
trust them or are increasingly upset or confused, take a step back! – If it’s
meant to be it will be, if it’s not wouldn’t you rather know now and learn from
it and be the person you’re supposed to be? Rather than the person you conform
to be to settle for what you think you’re worth?

SO I ask you again, if you had an off button to remove all
the history and hurt of failed romances would you? Or would you opt to keep
them there as a log of lessons learned to make you the person you deserve to be
and truly are at your core?

I know I wouldn’t change a thing! (Well apart from my
privacy settings, ha!)

Do you believe in love at first sight?

Whilst researching my ‘field’ and reading Cosmopolitan.com.au I came across an article that claims that a British survey has recently discovered that men are more likely to fall in love at first sight than women. Yeah right! I think there must be a typo here (i.e. replace love with lust) and you’ll probably be back on track.

The article states that apparently, all it takes for a man to fall in love is a simple flirty glance or whiff of perfume, with one in five men claiming to have fallen for a girl as soon as they laid eyes on her (seriously where do they find these men?! I mean names, addresses, e-mail address). Oh and it continues, after just one meeting, the stats rise even more – just over half were smitten after the first initial contact, and nearly three quarters had already decided she was The One within just three dates.

This might be more along the right lines… It found that women, on the other hand, are a bit more cynical. According to the study, which was conducted for the launch of Elizabeth Noble’s novel, The Way We Were, only a tenth of women believe they have ever experienced love at first sight, with most waiting until at least the sixth date to decide whether it was the real deal.

How may of you have been on a date with a guy and you find yourself thinking, “Could I see myself being with him?”, “would I be comfortable introducing him to my parents?”, or even “would that receding hair line become a turn off?”
I guess what I’m trying to say here is that when a girl goes on a date with a guy, there are a lot of things to consider, whereas (now I’m just guessing here) with guys, they either like you or they don’t.

The study also found that more men have said ‘I love you’ without the sentiment being reciprocated. Men are also more likely to utter those three magic words first in a new relationship. – I’m not being funny, but I would like to know the sample size and the demographic of the people that were surveyed here!

So tell us: do you believe in love at first sight?

Ever wanted to run your own bar??

I have always wanted to run my own bar, ever since my Auntie owned the local pub when I was younger. I have a vague memory of my third birthday, which had taken place at the pub – my two-year-old cousin and I decided to drink all the left over “dirty beer” in the pool room (a sign of things to come) when I leant over a little too far to grab a pint glass and fell over, promptly fracturing my collarbone in the process. My parents had some explaining to do that day when they took their three-year-old into A & E under the influence. (Disclaimer – my parents were actually amazing, this was a one-time slip, no need to call in child protective services, mostly as I’m now a 26-year-old woman and still find myself in similar predicaments!)

I found myself working at bars to support myself through college and uni to support my studies, these too were an eclectic mix: Local pub from 17 – 18, Holiday Inn Hotel from 18 – 19, Liverpool bars and clubs from 19 – 21 then cocktails bar in Manchester aged 23. I also found myself working at The Vault on Pitt Street when I first arrived in Australia to support my backpacker income 🙂 No don’t worry this isn’t a job application, just setting the scene (ok, ok I’ll get to the point)

Sooooo imagine my delight when the lovely guys at Polkadot PR contacted me to tell me about a brand new promotion they’re running with Drambuie, it is a competition called “The Premise”, which has launched nationally, visit www.thepremise.com.au

For the second year running in Australia, Drambuie is giving the opportunity to create and run their very own bar in Sydney. But this year they assure me that it will be BIGGER and BETTER with a unique bar setting, a secret location set to be announced very soon.

Inspired by Drambuie’s core values – risk, rebellion and mystery – participants are invited to design their own unique bar and entrants will go head to head in a competition to be judged by some of the industry’s best individuals to select THE WINNER. The information below describes how the competition works and presents the key dates from now until the big opening night on October 6.

The Premise will be announcing updates daily on: Facebook and Twitter so be sure to follow them.

Is it just me, or is there something really sexy about a bartender? Well apart from one loser who I used to work with, who for my sins I ended up dating for a while. One night after a shift we were helping ourselves to a beer after wed broken down the bar after a late shift. He hooked his iPod up to the speakers and proceeded to play a song from one of his favourite musicals’, only he didn’t just play the song, he serenaded me in the bar. I just wanted to ground to open up and swallow me! We didn’t last much longer after that.

On that note I’ll leave you with one of my favourite cocktail recipes that I used to make when working as a cocktail bartender in Manchester:

The Strawberry One (Courtesy of One lounge, West
Didsbury, UK
)

  • Place 3 chopped strawberries, 3 lime wedges, a dash
    of sugar syrup and a bar spoon on brown sugar into a Boston glass.
  • Muddle all the ingredients together
  • Add 1 ½ measure of alcohol and ½ measure of fraise liqueur
  • Add 3 measures of cranberry juice
  • Shake and strain over a Collins glass filled with crushed
    ice
  • Top off with soda water and a slice of strawberry and
    a lime wedge to garnish

Serve and enjoy 🙂

The rules and what not to do when dating

Whilst surfing the net recently I came across an article on cosmopolitan.com.au that really peaked my interest, for obvious reasons: I’ve talked about ‘The Rules’ before in quite a lot of detail and also, it came to my attention that I very, very rarely adhere to them.

Here they are in all their glory, please refer to what my ‘rules’ have previously been as a point of reference as to what NOT to practice when dating, especially in Sydney!

  1. Be a creature unlike any other
    Being a creature unlike any other is really an attitude, a sense of confidence and radiance that permeates your being from head to toe. It’s the way you smile (you light up the room), pause in between sentences (you don’t babble on out of nervousness), listen (attentively), look (demurely, never stare), breathe (slowly), stand (straight) and walk (briskly, with your shoulders back). When a relationship doesn’t work out, you brush away a tear so that it doesn’t smudge your makeup and you move on!
  2. Show up to parties, dances and social events even if you do not feel like it
    Realize that you may not meet Mr. Right naturally and that you therefore must take social action immediately even if you don’t want to.
    Get a manicure and go out on another date or to that singles dance – do something to increase your chances of meeting men.
  3. It’s a fantasy relationship unless a man asks you out
    Don’t waste time on a fantasy relationship. You may have a good rapport with your doctor, lawyer or accountant, and you may find yourself wondering if he is interested in you romantically. How can you know for sure? If he’s never asked you out, then He’s Just Not That Into You!
  4. In an office romance, do not email him back every time he emails you unless it is business related
    On all non-business e-mails, responding once for every four of his e-mails is a good rule of thumb. Remember, you never know who has access to your e-mail, so keep all romance off the screen and save it for Saturday nights.
  5. If you are in a long-distance relationship, he must visit you at least three times before you visit him
    Remember, the first three visits are really nothing more than three dates… and on the first three dates we don’t have sex with a man or have him stay at our place overnight.
  6. When considering whether to use personal ads or other dating services, you should place the ad and let men respond to you
    It goes back to the basic premise of The Rules: Man pursues woman. When writing your ad, remember that every man has a type, a voice or a look he likes. There has to be a spark for him that attracts him to you, something that makes him find you unexplainably special
  7. If he does not call, he is not that interested. Period
    We know this is hard to accept, but it’s not that he hasn’t called because he’s busy, or because you didn’t smile or talk enough (or did too much). It’s not that he lost your phone number. The bottom line is, if he hasn’t called, he’s not that interested.
  8. Close the deal – Rules women do not date men for more than two years
    If you’ve followed The Rules, your man probably loves you and wants to marry you. Your problem is not if he marries you, but when! If it’s been more than a year, see less of him and think about dating others. You’ve already spent more than a year waiting for him to propose; do you have another year to wait?
  9. Buyer beware – observe his behaviour so you don’t end up with Mr. Wrong
    Love may be blind, but Rules girls are not stupid! How does he act in the relationship? Is he cheap on dates? Is he critical of you? Remember, The Rules are not about marrying the first man you are attracted to who calls you by Wednesday for Saturday night and buys you flowers. It’s about marrying your own personal Mr. Right – a man whom you love and whose character you admire and can live with.
  10. Keep doing the Rules even when things are slow
    Take care of yourself, take a bubble bath and build up your soul with positive slogans like “I am a beautiful woman. I am enough.”
    You must learn to accept that, as an adult, you can’t always rely on a friend to do things with you. Even if you don’t meet Mr. Right, going out – whether it’s a restaurant, lecture or party – is a chance to meet new people and practice The Rules.

Source: therulesbook.com/topten.

The rules I’ve been known to operate – wonder why I’m single hey?! Ha!

  1. Be a drunken idiot like no other (in the room)

Guys don’t like a babbling, incoherent obnoxious girl, don’t consume 70 million glasses of white wine, during, before or after a date. Girl, it ain’t pretty! It took me a while to get a hang of this one. I’d be desirable until the red mist descends over my eyes, cue all good impressions vaporizing faster than anyone caught in the line of my alcohol breath – classy! When the relationship doesn’t work out, you don’t cry into your margarita so that you fathom The Joker from batman – panda eyes and tear tracks in your foundation are never a good look love!

Looking good!!

2.     Crash parties that you weren’t invited to because you know ‘he’ is there

No you won’t look aloof and desirable, you’ll end up looking a drunk/ pathetic/ loser (all of the above) doof and most probably end up getting kicked out!

3.     Daydream constantly about the guy you’ve been on one date with imagining how many kids you’re going to have just because he added you on Facebook

Most probably to the detriment of your career, friendships etc as your mind wanders off to some faraway land that you’ve created for yourself, that quite frankly isn’t a reality, or even close for that matter!

4.     You’re bored at work, talk to the guy that has been e-mailing you, good sign! Then scare him off as you tell him your life story and you haven’t been on your first date yet (and it isn’t looking likely anymore)

Yup! Less than ideal, guys like the chase and like to get to know you gradually. They don’t want to know how may brothers and sisters you have, what you got in your GCSEs and what your first pet was called within 3 hours of e-mailing you to say hello! Not that I’ve ever done that, ahem!

5.     If you’re in long distance relationships – badger him to come and see you so he feels guilty and then resents you

If a guy wants to be with you and see you he will do everything within his power to make it work, trying to convince yourself that you can make it work by pushing him isn’t going to work. Also, ‘surprising him’ by visiting him unannounced also doesn’t go down well, especially when you catch them with someone else!

6.     I can’t actually say I’ve had a bad experience with personal ads, or any experience for that matter

Maybe that’s where I’m going wrong J Needy, desperate girl is looking for her white knight to rescue her from loneliness – anyone may respond asap!!!! P.s. I love you!!!! What you recon?!

7.     If he doesn’t call, it obviously means he’s lost his phone, you didn’t put your number in right, he’s really busy at work or all of the above!

He was sooo into me, he can’t possibly be not that into me, I refuse to believe it?! Yeah been there done that, got the t-shirt!

8.     Hang around waiting for six years for the man you love to even make a step towards moving in with you, then wait eight weeks whilst he decides if he really wants to be with you.

We know how that one pans out! NEXT!

9.     It doesn’t matter if he’s Mr Right or Mr Right Now – stick with it god damn it!

You know he’s not your type, you continue to see him, even though you know it’s not right for fear of being alone – yeah that’s the trick! A lifetime of unhappiness…

10.  Get too comfortable and let him see you as you truly are, if he loves you he loves you for you, right?!

Sit around in your comfy pants, don’t get your nails done because you can’t be arsed and let him take you for granted! Yeah that’s the way to a guy’s heart…

 

(Disclaimer if you do operate any potential relationships with this mentality – you will end up alone!!)

How to make every possible situation worse – The Wedding

Now I have been back for quite some time, just over two weeks to be precise, so I thought it was about time that I wrapped up the UK trip so I can blog more about recent goings on. I also wanted to free up some space so I can comment on some recent blogs/ articles in the media that have really caught my attention.

I’m sure I’m not alone when I say that I had one guy at high school that really caught my attention – both for the right and the wrong reasons. I’m sure it’s the usual tale of unrequited love. I was an awkward 13-year-old and had a HUGE crush on the most popular guy in my year, yawn! Shock, horror he didn’t return my affections and I was devastated, which on its own would be enough to make me a smidge depressed and resentful towards him. Only, he decided to take it one step further and decide to nickname me, Big Wig. Oh yes that’s right, he was the one that started the trend of people poking fun at my thick unruly frizzy hair (It’s alright for all the kids now, they have straighteners, all I had was a barrel brush, a hairdryer and not a lot of patience).

Cue my growing disdain for him as the tortuous high school years rolled on, he would date my best friends, laugh at me and generally be an all round nuisance.

I eventually learned how to stick up for myself and had my moment of crowning glory when best friend decided she didn’t want him to ‘go out’ with him anymore. (Funny how you call it going out in high school when ‘going out’ usually refers to the local bridge with a bottle of cider in tow – classy!)

When my friend asked me to call the arrogant boy, I jumped at the chance:

Ring Ring: Hello

Me: Hi it’s ****

Boy: Oh erm hi

Me: Jenny says you’re dumped*

Me: Promptly hang up

*What too harsh?! My bad…

Yeah we were never going to get on were we…

Cue the years roll by and I often saw him out round town, I still couldn’t get over my disdain for him, I’d be so off with him it was quite frankly very rude (upon reflection!). it even got to the point where he would ask my friends what he had done for me to no like him, ahem! Thank goodness he didn’t know or ever find out… that was until my best friend’s wedding, you know the one I jetted all the way back to the UK for?! Yeah that one!

He was one of the ushers as the groom was one of his oldest friends, so you can imagine the wedding did somewhat resemble a high school reunion. Which to be honest was lovely, the perfect way to see how much everyone had changed.

The ceremony was unreal, Jenny (yes the same Jenny what asked me to finish him for her 12 years ago) looked incredible! One of the most beautiful brides I’ve ever seen!

After the ceremony we all kicked onto the hotel, we had the Wedding Breakfast and the speeches were hilarious! Jenna’s father’s speech was so touching it brought a tear to my eye! The grooms speech brought many a tear to his own eyes, bless! Only throughout the whole ceremony, the Boy (well now man, but we’ll call him the boy for the purpose of this blog) felt the need to heckle throughout, always has to have the attention on him!

I bit my tongue and just carried on listening to the speeches. After the speeches we enjoyed the food and had even more drinks as the room was transformed for the reception.

The first dance, – Oh my! It was unreal they’d choreographed a whole routine, a complete surprise for everyone and it got literally everyone up on the dance floor.

The hours rolled by and before we knew it, it was only the wedding guests that were still around enjoying beverages from the bar, there really was no need!

Me and the girls all had a glass of sparkling with Jenny to toast her special day, it had been perfect, I was feeling the great atmosphere in the room and thought that it would be best to go and clear the air with Boy.

So I promptly dragged him outside and apologised for being a complete cow to him, well in general. He accepted my apology and made the fatal error of asking me why… I could’ve said oh never mind, but oh no, stupid intoxicated me decided to tell him EVERYTHING! The unrequited love, the name BIG WIG and my pleasure in the phone call…

To say he was shocked was putting it mildly, he explained that he had no idea and that he’d always had a little thing for me too! Yeah coouuurseeeeeee he has, because that’s what you do apparently when you like someone, create a nickname for them and get your mates to chant it to them, ha!

He then carried on and told me how he now plays football with my ex… Aaron… yep THAT ONE! He told me how great he thought Aaron was and how much of a great guy he was. It made me feel sick. For some reason in my drunken haze I thought I would be a good idea to kiss him! Yes that right, you did read correctly, kiss him! WTF! In front of EVERYONE at the wedding. Nice one! NOT!

Seriously, I wonder why my mind vacates me when I’ve had a few too many sparkling! I then proceeded to go back to his room with him and pass out, nice work! Neither of us made the breakfast the next morning, cue chatter and gossip about us spending the night together. Little did they know I’d woken up alone, fully dressed with my shoes still on, ha!

Now looking back I can see how unbelievably stupid this action was, if Aaron finds out he is going to know for sure my motivations! Not cool!

This whole episode reminds me of when Chandler meets up with a girl he made fun of at high school, check it out here!

Only my situation had a somewhat different outcome. How about the A-Z guide of how to make every possible scenario worse!!

On the Other Side

We’re all too familiar with the history of a certain boy called Paul, he’s been in and out of the picture for the past year. I’ve recently had a revelation with regards to this specimen and it might be for the best.

I realised whilst in the UK that I have let certain men in my life have it waaaaaaay too easy, and this my friends is going to stop!

All too often my friends and I sit around debating what guys are thinking, what their motivations are and assuming what they hope to get out of the ‘relationship’.

Hands up if you’ve heard (or said) any of these statements before:

“He’s obviously a commitment-phobe and you got too close so he’s backed off”

“It doesn’t matter how soon you sleep with them, what will be will be”

“If he texts you need to wait a few days in the beginning, you know keep him on his toes”

“He obviously isn’t mature enough for an adult relationship”

“Guys like the chase, you can’t be too available”

“He’s just a man-whore, stay clear!”

Etc etc. I am one of the guilty ones, well no sh1t Sherlock, I’m the one that write a blog about dating, ha. Don’t get me wrong I’m not trying to kid myself that I won’t analyse in the future, or not listen to my friend’s advice. I guess I’m just saying I’m going to be a little more logical about these things and accept the obvious, i.e.

If he doesn’t call or text after meeting me, first date, second date etc he probably isn’t that keen. It isn’t an invitation for me to send a number of ‘aloof’ text messages,  that quite frankly might as well just end up saying p.s. I love you!

We don’t need to analyse why. A. I might not be his type. B. He may have met someone else. C. I came on too strong, yes, it has been known, shocking I know hey 😉 D. He’s not over is ex… Etc, etc E. I spent the night too soon.

I guess what I’m trying to say is that there could be 101 reasons as to why they haven’t been in touch. A point that I have struggled with in the past is: You cannot be everyone’s type!

Now by saying this, don’t assume that I think I’m a goddess and can’t imagine how anyone would not want to walk on hot coals to be with me, far from it in fact! What I am trying to say is that, how many times have you met a guy and he’s lovely, cute, intelligent and/ or funny but there just isn’t a spark? EXACTLY. Sometimes you’re just not what he’s looking for, so why spend hours/ days/ months trying to figure out what went wrong, or what the hell is wrong with you.

When I think about all the debating I’ve done with myself, advise I’ve listened to off friends when I could’ve saved a lot of time and just dealt with it and moved on!

So I guess I’ve realised also, if you make things too easy for a guy, why the hell would he try to put in more effort. Let’s take a while to go back to the case in point: Paul.

An overview

I met him in October 2010, spent the first night with him. From then onwards he would phone/ text me on Saturday nights about 10pm, sometimes I’d go to meet him, sometimes I’d decide I didn’t want to – convincing myself it was on my terms. Often in the week I would text him in the hope that it would transcend into a date, it never did, he’s either not reply or be quite blunt in his answers. Oh he did ask me out on dates, but completely dropped me the day before, or even sometimes an hour before the said was due to begin with some lame excuse – tiredness was his personal fave!

He’d go off the radar for months and then I’d get a random text out of the blue and then we’d catch up with him again on the weekend – you get the cycle.

This continued until he got in touch five weeks ago asking if he could take me on the date he owed me, this was on the Friday and he asked to take me out that Sunday. I agreed and asked him what time. I didn’t hear. So on Sunday I went out with another guy. He decided to call me at 6pm… Funny he should expect I would be waiting around for him, I wonder why he thought that – *insert sarcastic tone*

A week later he called me on the Friday when I was out and said he wanted to see me, you can get a recap of the resulting events here and here (he’s called Chris in this article as I change all the names on my blog).

So back to my trip back home, I landed in Manchester to a text from him wishing me a safe journey and he said he’d see me in two weeks, I was chuffed, but wasn’t holding my breath.

I had an amazing time in Spain and drunkenly one night decided to call him, as you do! He has said that he was going to add me on Facebook before I left, but surprise, surprise, he didn’t you see and I was on a UK number with no access to my Aussie number, all excuses! To say he was surprised to hear from me is putting it mildly, but he did seem genuinely pleased, he advised that he would call me when he landed in two weeks time…

Shock horror I didn’t hear a peep! Show of hands who’s surprised… didn’t think so!

Lesson learned, I will not put myself in that position again. If a guy only sees me as the girl he hooks up with, and I quite obviously see him as more, I ain’t going to go there.

Isn’t it funny how we convince ourselves (I hope you don’t mind me speaking as the collective here, it’s just too much of a depressing thought to think that I’m the only one who does this, so I’m bringing you all down with me, ha!) that we only want a casual fling too, we’re happy with the situation and don’t want anything more.

I just don’t believe that we’re programmed that way, that is unless you really aren’t that into them, when in that case – remind yourself as to why you are hooking up with them in the first, are you that desperate?! – Yup I’ve been there too before you think I’m preaching too you!

Change is in the air my friends and I have to say it is quite an exciting prospect 🙂