When I first entered the dating field three years ago, I’d just come out of a long term relationship (the only serious relationship I’ve ever been in FYI). I couldn’t understand how people could date more than one person at a time, casually or not. It didn’t seem right.
Three years later and a little bit more life experience has showed me that it doesn’t hurt to keep your options open…
Recently I had two dates in one week with two different people, it troubled me somewhat. Not so much that I thought that I was doing anything wrong, but I was worried what people might think of me.
Now don’t get me wrong, I wouldn’t ever cheat, if we have the exclusive chat, or if I found myself falling for someone, I wouldn’t dream of seeing other people. I do believe however, that when you’re single it doesn’t do any harm to play the field and up your odds.
One of my girl friends is an advocate for having at least three guys on the scene until you find the one:
- Mr reliable – the guy you know who is always there if you need him – Consistent
- Mr 10pm on a Saturday night – you know! – Sporadic
- Mr dates-a-lot – A girl likes to be wined and dined don’t you know – Interchangeable
A recent post on AskApril.com also touched on this dilema, again referring to a ‘numbers game’.
What are your thoughts with regards to this? In the year 2011, should we keep our options open and our cards close to our chest??